Finding Humanity in the Wilderness-Bamidbar

We are living in a wilderness. The landmarks we relied on — shared institutions, common ground, the assumption that the person across from us inhabits the same basic reality — have grown unfamiliar. We are between what was and whatever comes next. Disoriented. And tempted, as people always are in disorienting times, to cluster into tribes, to find safety in the familiar, and to stop seeing the people just outside our camp.

Into that disorientation, the Torah this week offers a name for where we are. Bamidbar — In the Wilderness. And the first thing it does, before laws, before strategy, before the long march begins, is this: God tells Moses to count the people.

Not manu otam — number them. S’u et rosh — lift the head. Every person, by name, by clan, by family. Not a tally. A seeing.

This is the question Bamidbar puts to us: What does it mean to count someone?

We know one answer. We live with it every day. We count people to manage them — to allocate resources, to measure outcomes, to track attendance. In that kind of counting, what matters is the number, not the person behind it. The individual disappears into the aggregate. A congregation becomes “membership numbers.” A person in grief becomes a “case.”

The Torah offers a different answer.

In the wilderness, where the Israelites have no city, no home, no fixed identity beyond the memory of slavery, God insists on counting each one by name. Before anything else can happen — before the camp is organized, before the march continues — every person has to be seen as a person.

The word midbar shares a root with davar — word, speech, the act of speaking. The wilderness is the place of speech. Not the speech of a crowded life, where we talk past each other in corridors and Shabbat kiddushes. The speech of the stripped-down encounter — where there is nothing left but the person in front of you and what is actually true. That is where the Torah is given. Not in a palace. In the midbar, where the distractions fall away, and the question becomes unavoidable: who is here, and do I actually see them?

The Levites are counted separately in this parsha. Every other tribe is counted for military service — men twenty years and older, those who can bear arms. The Levites are not. They are assigned to the Mishkan, the Tabernacle, the portable dwelling of the divine in the midst of the people. Their job is not to fight. Their job is to tend the place of meeting — to keep open the space where a genuine encounter is possible. The entire camp is arranged around that center. The whole organization of the Israelite community in the wilderness is structured around proximity to the place of real meeting.

This is not incidental to Judaism. It is the architecture of it.

Bamidbar does not let us retreat into our tribes. Before the march begins, before positions are taken, God says, “Lift the head.” Not of your group. Of every person. The census is not an invitation to count the people who look like you.

Here is the call: Find one person this week you have been counting but not truly seeing. Not a category. Not a face you pass in a corridor. A person, by name, by what they are actually carrying right now. Ask a real question and stay for the answer.

That is what it means to be in the wilderness together. That is this week’s work.

Shabbat Shalom

As we enter Shabbat, this week’s Torah portion reminds us that we are in it together.

Praying for peace and wholeness, Shabbat Shalom

עוֹשֶׂה שָׁלוֹם בִּמְרוֹמָיו הוּא יַעֲשֶׂה שָׁלוֹם עָלֵינוּ וְעַל כָּל יִשְׂרָאֵל וְעַל כָּל יוֺשְׁבֵי תֵבֶל

 וְאִמְרוּ אָמֵן

Oseh shalom bimromav, hu ya’aseh shalom aleinu, v’al kol Yisrael, v’al kol yoshvei tevel v’imru amen. 

May the One who makes peace in the high places, bring peace upon us, and upon all Israel, and all humankind, and let us say: Amen.

What Does It Mean to Celebrate?

Reflections on Yom Ha’atzmaut in a Fractured Time

Yom Ha’atzmaut is here.

And I am not sure what to do with it this year.

I suspect I am not alone.

Some of us will celebrate with a brightness that feels slightly forced. Others will scroll past the blue-and-white posts on our feeds, unable to summon joy. Some will feel that celebrating at all is a kind of moral surrender — a looking away from things that cannot be ignored.

If any of this describes you, I want to be clear: your discomfort is not disloyalty. It shows how seriously you take what Israel was meant to be.

And if you find yourself in a different place from other Jews you love, people struggling just as honestly from the other direction, that too is part of this moment. There may not be a single right way to stand before this day, but there is a Jewish way to wrestle with it.

The Text We Keep Forgetting

I want to go back to May 14, 1948.

Not to the military maps or the political negotiations. To the document. To the words the founders actually chose when they had the chance to speak.

“The State of Israel will be based on freedom, justice and peace as envisaged by the prophets of Israel” — and commits to “complete equality of social and political rights to all its inhabitants irrespective of religion, race or sex.”

The founders did not reach for military might. Not for ethnic supremacy. Not even for simple survival. In their most solemn moment, they reached for the prophets. They staked this new state’s legitimacy on a moral vision — ancient, demanding, and unmistakably Jewish.

That is what Yom Ha’atzmaut is actually celebrating.

Not merely a military victory. Not a geopolitical fact. The moment a people declared they would return to their land and do so justly.

The Tradition They Invoked

They knew exactly which prophets they were citing.

Isaiah, who thundered that sacrifice without justice is an abomination. Amos, who declared that God despises our festivals when the poor are crushed at the gates. Micah, who distilled the entire Torah into three obligations: do justice, love kindness, walk humbly.

These were not gentle voices. They were Israel’s most demanding lovers, celebrating the covenant and indicting its betrayal in the same breath, sometimes even in the same verse. They never abandoned Israel when it failed. They held it, fiercely, to its highest self.

That is the tradition Yom Ha’atzmaut places us in.

Not cheerleading. Not abandonment. Something harder and more honorable than either: prophetic loyalty.

The prophets never argued that Israel’s struggles forfeited its right to exist. Nor did they suggest that Israel’s existence placed it beyond accountability. They said something more demanding than either: precisely because this people is called to something higher, the gap between that calling and the present reality must be named, mourned, and closed.

The Gap We Cannot Pretend Away

The Declaration is not a historical artifact. It is a living covenant — and covenants make demands.

So let me name what the Declaration’s own language requires us to ask.

There are wars that were both existential and necessary. Wars whose courage deserves to be honored without hesitation or qualification. And there are military and political choices whose necessity is genuinely disputed — whose costs have fallen heavily on people who did not choose them.

There is an occupation now entering its sixth decade. The Declaration promised equality and justice. For millions of people who have known nothing else, the daily reality of life without sovereignty or legal recourse is a standing question addressed directly to the founders’ vision.

There is violence carried out by those who claim the land in the name of Jewish values — desecrating both the land and those values in the same act.

And there is a sustained assault on judicial independence — the very institution standing between the state’s founding promises and their erosion. When accountability is dismantled, the gap between aspiration and reality stops being painful and becomes permanent.

I am not making a partisan argument. I am holding the present up to the Declaration’s own words.

To name these things is not to delegitimize Israel. It is to hold Israel to its own founding covenant.

That is, in fact, the most Jewish act we can take.

What the Rabbis Already Knew

Jewish tradition has already given us a framework for exactly this kind of complexity.

On the last days of Passover, we recite only half Hallel — the psalms of praise — rather than the full Hallel.

The reason is arresting.

When the angels wanted to sing as the Egyptians drowned in the sea, God stopped them. “My creatures are drowning, and you want to sing songs?” According to tradition, full joy is morally unavailable when others are suffering, even when that suffering follows from our own necessary deliverance.

Yom Ha’atzmaut does not call for half Hallel. The miracle of Jewish sovereignty — a people returning from the literal ashes of history to reestablish a state in their ancestral homeland — is real, extraordinary, and worthy of full-throated celebration.

But perhaps not a Hallel entirely untroubled, either.

Not because the miracle is diminished. Because the vision the founders declared is not yet fully realized, and people are suffering in the shadow of that gap.

This is not despair. This is Jewish moral honesty.

The refusal to let celebration become anesthesia.

The Most Counter-Intuitive Thing I Want to Say

To celebrate Yom Ha’atzmaut is not to endorse the present.

It is to hold the present accountable to the founding promise.

When we gather, sing, and mark this day, we are not saying: everything is fine. We are saying: this vision is worth everything, but it is not yet complete. We are not done, and we refuse to walk away.

To stop celebrating is to abandon the field, to concede that the gap between aspiration and reality is simply how things are.

To celebrate without reckoning is to betray the vision and to turn a covenant into a tribal rally.

The prophetic answer, the Jewish answer, is to do both, fully, in the same breath.

Sing because the miracle is real.

Grieve because the distance from the vision is real.

Reject the false choice between love and conscience, because genuine love has never required us to close our eyes.

The prophets did not love Israel less for naming its failures. They loved it more, precisely because they refused to let it become less than it was called to be.

An Invitation

This Yom Ha’atzmaut, let your celebration be the most serious thing you do.

Sing — because seventy-seven years ago, a people who had just walked through fire stood up and declared they would live, build, and do so with justice. That deserves every note.

Grieve — because the distance between that declaration and today’s reality is not minor, and pretending otherwise dishonors the founders and those living in the shadow of that gap.

And then sit with this question, not as rhetoric but as a real question I am asking you directly:

What does my love for this state truly require of me?

Not what it permits. Not what it excuses.

What does it require?

That question — taken seriously and wrestled with honestly — may be the most Zionist act of all.

חַג עַצמָאוּת שָּמֵאח

A meaningful and searching Independence Day.

Shabbat Shalom

A beloved poet sharing his musical gift.  This Shabbat I share Yusuf/Cat Stevens’ Where do the Children Play.

Wishing a peaceful Shabbat for all.

עוֹשֶׂה שָׁלוֹם בִּמְרוֹמָיו הוּא יַעֲשֶׂה שָׁלוֹם עָלֵינוּ וְעַל כָּל יִשְׂרָאֵל וְעַל כָּל יוֺשְׁבֵי תֵבֶל

 וְאִמְרוּ אָמֵן

Oseh shalom bimromav, hu ya’aseh shalom aleinu, v’al kol Yisrael, v’al kol yoshvei tevel v’imru amen.

May the One who makes peace in the high places, bring peace upon us, and upon all Israel, and all humankind, and let us say: Amen.

Shabbat Shalom

What Does It Mean to Truly Heal? Parshat Tazria-Metzora

What Does It Mean to Truly Heal?

Think of the last time you heard your name mentioned in a conversation that stopped the moment you walked in. That sudden silence — the awkward smiles, the quick subject change — carries a weight that is hard to name but impossible to forget. Most of us have been on both sides of that moment. We know how it feels to be the one walking in. If we are honest, we can recall times when we were the ones who went quiet.

Parshat Tazria-Metzora confronts us with one of the Torah’s most unsettling teachings: our words leave a mark on the world — and on ourselves. The rabbis understood tzara’at not as a mere physical affliction, often mistranslated as leprosy, but as an outward sign of an inward fracture, the consequence of lashon hara, speech that wounds. The Chofetz Chaim, R. Yisrael Meir Kagan, whose life’s work on the ethics of speech grew from this very parsha, took this so seriously that he would lose sleep over a careless word he himself had spoken. Not someone else’s words — his own. That level of accountability feels almost foreign to us today, in a world where harmful speech is effortless and its consequences are rarely felt by the speaker.

Most of us can recall a comment we made that traveled further than we intended — a remark at the dinner table, a message in a group chat, or a confidence shared just once that somehow became common knowledge. We told ourselves it was nothing. The Torah tells us otherwise.

But this parsha does not leave us in guilt. It offers us a path forward. Rabbi Jonathan Sacks taught that the metzora’s —the afflicted person ’s—journey was the Torah’s model of restorative justice—not punishment, but the purposeful work of healing and return. The community does not forget those who have been excluded. It waits for them, and welcomes them back.

That same path is open to us. This week, consider one conversation you might repair, one word you might withhold, and one silence you might choose when careless speech would have come easily.

“Mavet v’chayyim b’yad halashon”

“Death and life are in the power of the tongue” — Proverbs 18:21

The Torah is not asking us to be perfect. It is asking us to be honest — and then, one word at a time, to begin again.

Shabbat Shalom

As Shabbat approaches, our world finds itself broken.  Love and understanding are under assault by hatred and violence.  Cantor Leon Sher’s beautiful prayer Heal Us Now is our plea for Tikkun- repair.

עוֹשֶׂה שָׁלוֹם בִּמְרוֹמָיו הוּא יַעֲשֶׂה שָׁלוֹם עָלֵינוּ וְעַל כָּל יִשְׂרָאֵל וְעַל כָּל יוֺשְׁבֵי תֵבֶל

 וְאִמְרוּ אָמֵן 

Oseh shalom bimromav, hu ya’aseh shalom aleinu, v’al kol Yisrael, v’al kol yoshvei tevel v’imru amen.

Shabbat Shalom

The Metaphor of the Moment: Finding Meaning in the Exodus

The rituals and stories of Passover, like many others, are rarely about the literal meaning; they serve as invitations to explore the richer metaphors of human experience. During Pesach, we engage with texts that connect Divine mystery with human limitation, urging us to find hope in the most difficult circumstances.

A provocative and often-overlooked metaphor lies in the Matza. Tradition holds that the Israelites had so little time to escape Egypt that they couldn’t let their bread rise, yet the modern “halachic” or “kosher” process of Matza-making allows the dough to rise for up to 18 minutes. The text notes that, in the chaos of packing and rushing to leave, there was no time to let the dough rise. But surely, 18 minutes could have been found.

This raises a profound question: if we could have made the time, but the story insists we did not, what is the message? It suggests that the Exodus is more than just a historical event; it is a metaphor conveying a larger, universal message. The Matza symbolizes a deliberate choice to embrace the incomplete or unleavened. It serves as a reminder that when an extraordinary moment arrives, we must seize it, ready to leave behind the familiar, the influence, or relative comfort of our old lives before it can rise and hold us back.

 

 

Wishing you a Zissen Pesach

I am stirred by the Steinsaltz Center’s understanding of Passover.  And with full attribution, I share their thoughts on the four key messages of Passover:

  • Freedom: Not just physical liberation, but spiritual freedom through identity, responsibility, and divine purpose.
  • Memory and Transmission: The night is built to spark questions so children will learn and connect.
  • Redemption: Faith in the past and hope for the future are embedded in every step of the Seder.
  • Final Reflection: The Seder is a bridge through time.By participating fully, each person is part of the collective memory and destiny of the Jewish people.

May we all enjoy a zissn Pesach, connecting deeply to our tradition and the timeless values of Judaism.

 

The Leadership of the Hearth: Why the Best Architects of Legacy Start with the Ashes-Tzav

Bruce Springsteen sang loudly, “You can’t start a fire without a spark.” In today’s hyper-professionalized culture, we obsess over the “spark”—the viral moment, the massive product launch, or the sudden stroke of genius. But as anyone who has built a lasting organization or a meaningful life knows, a spark is not a fire, and a fire must be tended.

The ancient text of Parsha Tzav teaches what it really takes to maintain a legacy. While it mainly describes the duties of the priesthood, it also offers psychological and leadership insights that are surprisingly modern.

  1. The “Lowly” Work of High Leadership

The Parsha begins with an unexpected requirement: the leader must personally remove the ashes from the altar (Leviticus 6:3). More importantly, they must do so while wearing their official, regal garments. It reminds me of Admiral McRaven’s book “Make Your Bed,” where this simple morning ritual can set you up for a successful day. And for anyone who has served as a chair of a committee or clergy, for that matter, we think of that as we move the chairs around in preparation for each meeting.

The Lesson: No task is beneath the mission. True “Architects of Meaning” understand that excellence lies in maintenance, not just spectacle. Whether it is refining a process, mentoring a junior colleague, or tending to administrative details, treating the “mundane” with the same gravity as the “miraculous” is what prevents an organization, in the case of the Priesthood, or an individual’s life, from collapsing under its own weight.

  1. Don’t Wait for Inspiration; Build the Rhythm

We are told that a “permanent fire shall remain kindled… it shall not go out” (Leviticus 6:6). While a “heavenly fire” may have started the flame, it was the human obligation to fuel it daily.

The Lesson: In a world where we often feel overwhelmed and then withdraw in response, we often tend to wait for “the feeling” to return before taking action. Tzav emphasizes the discipline and importance of alacrity—acting with energy or enthusiasm (Zirizut)—regardless of how we feel. Legacy is built through small, daily efforts we make when no one is watching and when the heavenly fire seems dim.

  1. Success is a Communal Meal

The Korban Todah (Thanksgiving Offering) had a fascinating constraint, in that it had to be completed in a single day (Leviticus 7:15). This effectively compelled the individual to invite others to the table. You couldn’t celebrate your win alone; you had to share the bounty and the story behind it.

The Lesson: Personal success is a private achievement, but Legacy is a communal one. If your accomplishments don’t inspire others to join you, they won’t endure. True leaders shift the narrative from scarcity to abundance by ensuring their gratitude is visible and shared.

The Bottom Line

Being an Architect of Meaning isn’t about the height of the structure; it’s about the consistency of the flame. By clearing the ash of yesterday and fueling the fire of today, we ensure that our influence outlasts our presence.

How are you nurturing your “inner fire” this week? What “ashes” do you need to clear away to make space for tomorrow’s growth?

Building a Sanctuary in the Shadows: Vayakhel-Pekudei

Building a Sanctuary in the Shadows: Vayakhel-Pekudei

In the double parashah of Vayakhel-Pekudei, we conclude the Book of Exodus not with a thunderous miracle but with a detailed account of gold, silver, and blue wool. After the spiritual collapse of the Golden Calf, the Jewish people are tasked with a “rebound” project: building the Mishkan (Tabernacle). But why create a sanctuary in the desert wilderness? Perhaps A more timely reframing of the question is, when the outside world is in chaos, how do we create an internal space that remains untouchable?

The word Vayakhel means “And he assembled.” Moses gathers the community together. This isn’t just a physical gathering; it is a spiritual reunification. After a period of division and sin, the remedy is collective purpose.

Pekudei means “records” or “accounts.” Moses gives a clear breakdown of every shekel donated.

Rashi, commenting on Exodus 35:2, explains that the commandment for Shabbat is placed directly before the construction of the Mishkan to teach us a boundary: as sacred and urgent as the “building” is, it does not take precedence over the Sabbath. Even during our most urgent moments of defense and advocacy, we must preserve the integrity of our holy pauses.

The Torah further admonishes in the next verse:

“You shall kindle no fire throughout your settlements on the day of the Sabbath.” (Exodus 35:3)

What is this fire of which the Torah speaks?  Rabbi Samson Raphael Hirsch, the founder of modern orthodoxy, explores this “fire” as the ultimate tool of human mastery and technology. The Torah’s prohibition against kindling fire on Shabbat reminds us that we must not be consumed by our own survival tools or ambitions. We fight when necessary, but we do not become the fight. We preserve our “Shabbat soul,” so we have a sanctuary to return to. The Human fire is different from the sacred fire of God’s presence in the Mishkan once it is built.

This highlights the tension we experience today: balancing our public responsibilities to the Jewish people while safeguarding the private spiritual integrity of our own souls and homes. We are currently facing serious crises. The external threats from Hamas, Iran, and others are existential and seek to destroy the Jewish state. Meanwhile, the rise of antisemitism and violence here and around the world presents significant risks to Jews and Jewish communities. Strengthening internal unity and security is essential. And so many of us are struggling in a world that does not give us the spiritual and emotional support we need.

This struggle for balance is our challenge today. Many of us lack a space for spiritual and emotional rest. The Mishkan, or sanctuary, feels elusive. Many of us are disconnected from traditional places of connection like synagogues. Yet we still long for what such places offer—community, support, and connections. If we don’t have these things that may complete us, how do we build the relationships at the core of a meaningful life? Can we be our best version of a friend, child, or sibling without that fulfillment? And how do we nurture our children, teaching them to be prepared, confident, and strong to face the world that awaits them?

Our task is to ensure that as they prepare to enter the world as strong, confident Jewish adults, they aren’t just experts in their fields, but are “wise-hearted” (Chacham Lev). It is in the home and in our relationships where that heart is fortified. Our home is a sanctuary that protects them from the “fire” of hostility, enabling them to focus on the “work” of becoming who they are meant to be.

The Book of Exodus concludes with the Cloud of Glory filling the Tabernacle during the day and aglow with fire by night.

In Exodus 40:38, we see, ‘The cloud of the Lord was upon the Tabernacle by day, and there was fire within it by night, before the eyes of the entire House of Israel throughout their journeys.”

The phrase “throughout their journeys” is essential. The cloud didn’t just appear when they were safe; it was present during the trekking, the uncertainty, and the transitions.

As we face current challenges both here and abroad, we remember that the “Accounting” of the Jewish people isn’t measured by our enemies’ hatred but by our own ability to build. By maintaining ourselves and the sanctuary that is our home, we create a space that guides and nurtures both ourselves and our loved ones with their own “fire and cloud.” We help ensure that we are fortified, and when it is time for our children to venture out on their own, they carry a piece of that sanctuary within them, ready to lead with strength, pride, and a “wise heart.”